Reverse Psychology.
Kids don't really understand when you tell them someone might take you or you may get hit by a car. Those words seldom elicit a reaction, being removed from mommy and daddy doesn't strike terror in their hearts, heck we spend much of our time trying to get kids to be comfortable without us. Its why we employ babysitters.
Evangeline and I went to the store today, she jumped out of the van and took off. I snagged her hand and asked her to hold my hand, she looked up at me and said "So no one steals you?"
"Right. So no one takes mommy."
"I'll keep you safe mommy."
We turned the fear around on her, some would say shame on you, but it works. we told her at first that it was a rule so no one could take her away from mommy, she thought it was funny. when the idea struck me. i told her that someone could steal mommy right away from her.
needless to say that thought really shook her up. how terrifying to think that someone could snatch your mommy away and you'd never see her again or someone wouldn't see your mommy and squish her flat with their car.
Evangeline always holds my hand now. never tries to pull away, but never clings to it in fear either and i know that she can't ever disappear on me.
I don't mind this little twist. It brought an idea she couldn't understand to one she could with a little role reversal. ;)
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